Man’s heartbreaking message about ‘bringing forward the inevitable’ sparks debate about assisted dying

Warning: This article discusses the tragic act of self-harm, shedding light on the topic with depth and sensitivity.


Warning: This article discusses the tragic act of self-harm, shedding light on the topic with depth and sensitivity.


The topic of assisted dying continues to stir impassioned debate, yet one man’s narrative has shed light on the profoundly heart-wrenching realities it entails.


While out walking the dogs in the fields behind her house, Di Syrett received a text on her phone. She lived there with her husband, Trevor.

The message, sent by Trevor, carried a poignant and deeply saddening content.

The message read: “My dearest friend, lover and wife. I am so sorry for what I have done. I cannot continue with my life the way it is now. I can’t walk, talk, eat or drink.

“I’m in constant pain and I’m losing the use of my right arm and leg. I am having trouble breathing and spasms in my throat are increasing.

“I am only bringing forward the inevitable. I love you more than I can say and I thank you for spending your life with me. Your ever-loving husband, Trevor.”

Additionally, he included a postscript advising her to reach out to a nurse neighbor for assistance ‘know what to do’.

Di received a devastating text from Trevor. Credit: ITV

He concluded his message: “Of course, I wouldn’t have to do this if this stupid country allowed assisted dying. You will find me in the workshop. Don’t hate me please Di.”

Di’s story is showcased in a captivating new ITV documentary titled “A Time to Die.”

In 2021, Trevor received a diagnosis of progressive bulbar palsy, a type of motor neurone disease.

Before long, he found himself unable to eat, speak, or even breathe without assistance.

He had previously expressed his reluctance: ‘to die grasping for breath’.

Once Di received the message, they headed back home and discovered Trevor exactly where he had mentioned – in the workshop, donning his overalls on the floor.

She said (as per the Daily Mail): “At first, I didn’t know what he had done. There is a lot of equipment in there, like saws, but he’d clearly taken an overdose. He was still conscious.

“Obviously, he couldn’t talk anyway – he hadn’t been able to talk for a year – but he took a plastic bag out of his pocket. There were tablets in it.

“When the paramedics arrived, I went back into the house and found a syringe and a jug with drug residue at the bottom. His wedding ring was on the side, with his mobile phone.

Trevor’s death reignites debates about assisted dying. Credit: ITV

“He’d previously said he didn’t want to die in the house because he knew I would go on living here so he didn’t want me to have that memory.”

Tragically, it would take another 11 days before Trevor’s life came to an end.

Following the failed overdose, he was transferred to a nearby hospice and subjected to a Deprivation of Liberty order, preventing any further suicide attempts.

Trevor had no choice but to decline both food and water, as Di asserted ‘horrible to watch’.

The subject of assisted dying continues to be a complex and sensitive issue. Advocates argue for granting individuals with terminal illnesses the autonomy to determine the manner of their own passing.

However, there are concerns raised by others regarding the regulation of this practice, as well as fears of potential exploitation and harm to individuals involved: ‘talked into’ it.

Don’t miss the premiere of “A Time to Die” tonight at 10.45pm on ITV1. You can also catch it on ITVX.